# The Evolutionary Trap: Unpacking Gen Z's Sexless Struggle
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Chapter 1: The Curious Case of the Jewel Beetle
During a warm spring day, biologists Darryl Gwynne and David Rentz encountered an unusual sight while insect hunting along a dusty highway in Western Australia. They noticed what appeared to be a discarded "stubbie," a short, stout amber beer bottle typical in Australia. Initially dismissing it as litter, they soon spotted a fervent jewel beetle clinging to the bottle as if it were a life raft.
As they observed the situation more closely, they identified the beetle as an Australian jewel beetle (Julodimorpha bakewelli). However, instead of enjoying a refreshing drink, these male beetles were attempting to mate with the bottle, a phenomenon that sparked the researchers' curiosity.
Their investigation led to a series of experiments where they lined up empty stubbies, effectively creating a speed-dating scenario for the beetles. Predictably, the male beetles flocked to the bottles in search of a mate. It wasn't the allure of beer that drew them in but a striking resemblance between the bottles and the female beetles, which are golden, shiny, and dimply. This misidentification tragically resulted in the beetles' demise, as they were left stranded in the heat, mistaking their mating targets for potential partners.
Gwynne and Rentz labeled this phenomenon an "evolutionary trap," where a behavior that once served a purpose—reproduction—now leads to harmful consequences. This concept extends beyond insects; it is a relevant issue for young men today.
Chapter 2: The Modern Male's Dilemma
As societal norms shift, young men find themselves navigating a treacherous landscape of expectations and realities. For centuries, men have pursued wealth and status to attract desirable partners. However, the traits that once held value—financial stability and social standing—are becoming less significant to modern women.
In fact, many young women have closed the wage gap and outpace their male counterparts in education, leading to a shift in what they seek in partners. Today, qualities like kindness, loyalty, and emotional intelligence are becoming paramount, while superficial attributes take a backseat. This shift leaves many men feeling lost, pursuing outdated ideals akin to the jewel beetles fixating on beer bottles.
Statistics reveal a stark reality: a recent study indicated that one in three young men admit to being sexless. Compounding this issue is a Pew Research Center finding that 63% of men under 30 identify as single, compared to only 34% of women. The decline in sexual activity parallels a growing inability to form meaningful connections, exacerbated by the prevalence of social media and online pornography.
Section 2.1: Social Skills in Decline
The reliance on digital communication has stunted the development of critical social skills necessary for real-life interactions. Richard Reeves, in his book Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It, highlights the plight of young men as they grapple with changing societal expectations.
Particularly concerning is how young Black men face compounded challenges due to systemic issues such as mass incarceration and educational disparities. The allure of unattainable ideals perpetuated by social media only serves to deepen their struggles.
Subsection 2.1.1: The Impact of Superficiality
The quest for physical beauty has reached unprecedented levels, leading many young men to retreat into incel communities that cultivate resentment and misogyny. In this environment, technology creates an echo chamber that further alienates them from genuine connections.
With the rise of AI-generated companions, young men may find themselves engaging in simulated relationships that lack the challenges and rewards of real-life interactions. While these advancements provide temporary solace, they ultimately prevent personal growth and fulfillment.
Chapter 3: The Path Forward
As Gen Z faces rising rates of loneliness and mental health issues, it becomes imperative to address the underlying causes. The lessons learned from the beetle's folly serve as a warning; technology can create illusions of intimacy that detract from authentic human connections.
To combat this, we must prioritize education and emotional intelligence, equipping young men with the skills needed to navigate relationships. Implementing these changes in high school curricula can create a foundation for healthier interactions.
If we fail to address these challenges, we risk perpetuating a cycle where young men, like the jewel beetles, remain ensnared in an evolutionary trap without the tools to escape.
Carlyn Beccia is an award-winning author and illustrator of 13 books. Subscribe to Conversations with Carlyn for free content every Wednesday, or become a paid subscriber to get the juicy stuff on Sundays.