Chapter 1: Understanding Vulnerability

Vulnerability is an experience that everyone encounters, often whether we acknowledge it or not. These instances compel us to make a choice: do we risk our self-esteem or safeguard it?

Consider the crossroads we face in these moments:

“Should I send this text, hoping for a response, or let it be?”

“Should I keep reaching out to a friend even if I sense a shift in our bond?”

“Should I go to a social event where I feel uneasy, or stay home because I have nothing else planned?”

To grasp the roots of our vulnerability, we must ask ourselves:

Is it a longing for validation? Do we believe that a response from someone will affirm our worth?

Or perhaps it’s a fear of rejection that keeps us from ending a connection, making us cling to it to avoid the discomfort of closure?

Sometimes, we might idealize someone to the extent that we neglect our own needs.

Despite our awareness of these patterns, why do we often choose to jeopardize our self-esteem? We might seek immediate relief from impulses, only to feel regret afterward. We tend to rationalize these actions with the thought, “But I’m only human!”

Is there anything wrong with this perspective? Not at all; it’s a natural part of being human. Making mistakes is inherent to our nature. Yet, we frequently deceive ourselves into believing that we can justify recurring missteps. How long do we plan to repeat these cycles?

From my personal journey, I’ve perceived myself as confident and possessing high self-esteem. However, there were numerous occasions when I struggled with self-control and succumbed to fleeting impulses, just like anyone else. It often left me feeling frustrated upon realizing my vulnerability.

After experimenting with my subconscious mind—details of which I’ve shared on my website—I recognized the need to strengthen my self-control. I consumed countless resources from renowned self-help authors, but one particular affirmation resonated deeply with me:

“Everything I need in this moment is already within me.”

Upon discovering this affirmation and voicing it, I felt an immediate wave of relief and empowerment. Though uncertain of its efficacy, I believed that consistently impressing this thought onto my subconscious would gradually shape my reality.

During a dedicated 21-day period to cultivate this new habit, every time I encountered an impulse—whether to reach out or send a text—I would remind myself, “Everything I need in this moment is already within me.” This mantra effectively quelled my urges to act impulsively, enhancing my self-control and, consequently, my self-esteem.

While vulnerability hasn’t vanished overnight, I now feel much more in command, particularly in situations that typically provoke it. The journey ahead remains long, but I’m encouraged to have made meaningful progress.

I invite anyone who relates to my experiences to adopt this affirmation. If you have additional affirmations that have helped you, please share them in the comments!

Chapter 2: A Mindset Coach's Perspective

As a mindset coach, my writings are rooted in my experiences and the challenges my clients face. I strive to provide practical tools and techniques in my blog, ensuring my readers gain valuable insights during their time here. To learn more, visit my website: www.thrivewithsumegha.com