Embracing Change: The Journey from Lies to Truth
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Understanding Self-Deception
Living in denial often brings us a false sense of security, shielding us from confronting our true selves.
In the realm of personal belief, two distinct perspectives emerge: one insists on a singular ultimate truth that guides their life, while the other embraces the notion that each individual holds their own version of the truth. I find myself aligned with the latter.
Unlike the principles governing energy, the concept of truth is malleable, capable of both creation and destruction. It is shaped by four key factors: the conviction of the storyteller, the perception of the audience, the skepticism of the doubter, and the biases of the believer. Understanding your audience is essential for crafting a version of truth that resonates with them.
This insight is closely tied to the ways in which we deceive ourselves. Simply asserting that someone is lying to themselves is unlikely to be met with acceptance. Every adept deceiver is convinced of their own truth. The crux of the matter lies in belief. Our belief systems, formed long before we could fully comprehend our consciousness, shape our understanding of the world. These systems can complicate our attempts to navigate our lives.
Changing the lies we tell ourselves is a challenging endeavor, as the origins of these lies are often obscured. The process is intricate and lengthy, but it begins with transforming our belief systems—the foundational source of our convictions, perceptions, confusions, and biases. Importantly, my aim is not to unveil an ultimate truth; rather, I seek to guide you in embracing more constructive lies while discarding the harmful ones that hinder your progress.
The most significant power we possess as humans is the ability to adapt and transform.
1. Acknowledge Your Beliefs
The journey to altering your belief system starts with recognizing that your current beliefs may be flawed—not universally, but in a way that impedes your growth. A dysfunctional belief system works against you. When your surroundings seem to conspire against your success, it is often a manifestation of your own beliefs.
Consider this: even accidents, which I perceive as happening to you rather than by you, can be influenced by your beliefs. After reflecting on your life events, you may conclude that it's not the events themselves but your reactions to them that have caused turmoil. Shifting your beliefs begins with this crucial realization: "The first step to any transformation is accepting that change is necessary."
2. Embrace Your Anger
It's essential to allow yourself to feel anger—whether directed at yourself, your upbringing, your friends, or the education system. This step is pivotal and should not be overlooked. Blaming external factors is part of the process; however, once you recognize that no one else is responsible for your feelings, you must confront your own shortcomings.
This self-directed frustration is vital, even if it leads to internal discomfort. Pain often catalyzes genuine change. In Buddhist philosophy, this transformative experience, spurred by suffering, is known as "Kensho." It prompts us to reassess our lives and alter our paths. Acknowledge your anger, process it, and reframe your experiences.
3. Negotiate with Your Subconscious
Real change begins when you engage with your subconscious mind, the repository of your beliefs, formed during your most impressionable years. You cannot simply bargain with your subconscious; it is already entrenched in its ways. Instead of fighting it, understand that your subconscious controls many of your decisions and actions.
Imagine yourself as a character in a video game, negotiating with a mischievous child holding the controller to your life. The film "Free Guy," starring Ryan Reynolds, illustrates this concept beautifully. While you may have some influence over your actions, you must also recognize the five ways to impact your belief system:
- Environment: Altering your surroundings can change how you perceive events.
- Events: Significant occurrences can fundamentally shift your mindset.
- Experiences/Knowledge: New insights can help you respond rather than react.
- Past Results: Reflecting on past achievements can foster self-confidence.
- Manifestation: Believing you already possess your desires can transform your approach to goals.
A new understanding signifies a fresh start, but your subconscious may resist this change. You must remain vigilant, gently guiding your subconscious as you navigate your life.
4. Accept Setbacks
It would be misleading to claim that changing your belief systems will be straightforward. You will likely encounter setbacks; this is a natural part of the process. Your subconscious will challenge you, especially during vulnerable moments.
All systems, including our minds, seek equilibrium. When you introduce new beliefs, your subconscious may resist because it finds comfort in the familiar. While it follows the commands you provide, the language of self-talk often leads to misunderstandings. For example, instructing yourself not to think of a "Pink Elephant" will only prompt that very thought.
Instead, clarify your desires. Rather than saying what you don't want, articulate what you do want. This clarity will help your subconscious focus on supporting your goals.
5. Repeat for Change
To change your mindset effectively, repetition is key. Just as harmful habits can become ingrained over time, positive changes can reshape your identity if consistently practiced.
If you identify as an athlete, your belief system will support that identity, making it easier to maintain healthy habits. As you begin this journey, consider adopting the identity of a "Learner." This robust identity fosters resilience and embraces the journey of growth.
A learner is always evolving, finding joy in the process rather than fixating on outcomes. Embrace the learner identity, and you will find fulfillment throughout your life.
Until next time,
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